tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post115556313337835191..comments2023-11-05T05:58:51.073-05:00Comments on Inside Andre's head ©: Alone. Good or bad?Andrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comBlogger61125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1156024381195835602006-08-19T17:53:00.000-04:002006-08-19T17:53:00.000-04:00@ Georgia girl: I'd like to think that my behavior...@ Georgia girl: I'd like to think that my behavior toward others hasn't been as mean and inconsiderate. If it has been, nobody's ever told me.<BR/><BR/>@ Cynthia: Cyn, I don't mind if you use my site to communicate with others. You're apart of my inner circle. Reap the benefits...Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1156024198925576252006-08-19T17:49:00.000-04:002006-08-19T17:49:00.000-04:00I'm from Stone Mountain. What about you?*Sorry for...I'm from Stone Mountain. What about you?<BR/><BR/>*Sorry for using your page as a form of communication to others Andre* :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155929014345196052006-08-18T15:23:00.000-04:002006-08-18T15:23:00.000-04:00Let me see if I can slide my two cents into this c...Let me see if I can slide my two cents into this conversation, for what it might be worth (hard to compete with so many other comments and minds).<BR/><BR/>Andre, I think relationships are about give and take. If people are "flaking" you and leaving you all alone, ask yourself if you've ever done the same to them? If you have, then their behavior is more than justified. If not, that's a different story.<BR/><BR/>By the way, what part of GA are you from Cynthia?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155903834145499212006-08-18T08:23:00.000-04:002006-08-18T08:23:00.000-04:00@ Ho (great name, by the way): I think I did a bad...@ Ho (great name, by the way): I think I did a bad job of conveying the <I>real</I> point that I needed to make in this post. I kept using the term "alone" to sound like I was talking about disassociation from the whole world. But I actually meant "alone" within the context of my closest friends (who, in some sense, WERE the world to me. Maybe therein lies the problem.) So, all throughout the post, I kept asking myself "If my friends (my world) methodically started to erase me from their lives, would I better off <I>without</I> them (or, within the context of this post; better off 'alone')?"<BR/><BR/>But, comment by comment, I started to get a sense that I maybe I COULD develop close relationships with OTHER people; and to not feel so excluded. Maybe I COULD find relationships where my 'friends' were as concerned about my welfare as I was for theirs.<BR/><BR/>I completely agree with you when you say that friends enjoy sharing things and...well...themselves with those that <I>they</I> call friends. But when they don't share (or don't WANT to), that -- to me -- is an indication that maybe I need to start looking elsewhere. Please trust me when I say that I'm don't plan to isolate myself from the <I>other</I> quarter-billion in this country because of the antics of a few people...<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping by. Y'all come back now, ya hear?Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155881013484474202006-08-18T02:03:00.000-04:002006-08-18T02:03:00.000-04:00“I'd like to be the sort of friend that you have b...“I'd like to be the sort of friend that you have been to me, I'd like to be the help that you've been always glad to be; I'd like to mean as much to you each minute of the day, as you have meant old friend of mine, to me along the way.” <BR/>I found your blog from aldo, and i like what you wrote about here. It made me look through different quotes about friends through google and I liked this one. I have to say that there's no doubt that we're all better off with friends. <BR/>I mean, let's think about it, when you don't have any friends then what does that say about you? Would you really prefer to be alone, and if so, then why would you make a post where you're angry and depressed about being alone? Are other people looking to serve their own self-interests by being your friend? In a way, yeah, maybe, but when those self-interests include sharing laughter and love that they may have for you, then there's nothing wrong with that because that's what being alive is all about. I know you're not talking about a particular moment, but didn't hanging out with this girl at the jazz festival make you feel better than being alone? If you say it makes no difference, I'll believe you, but we would't know because that didn't happen. My point is that when there are people there to share with you and to feel with you, then it doesn't get any better because then you begin to understand yourself, and understand where your spirit and energy lies because what you see and how you feel about others is a reflection of what you see and feel about yourself...... I mean, you're trying to serve a self-interest of being human, and as far as I'm concerned that's not such a bad thing.Hohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12304472753487794148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155859368705990662006-08-17T20:02:00.000-04:002006-08-17T20:02:00.000-04:00@ JD: If you keep it up, I'm gone have to run up t...@ JD: If you keep it up, I'm gone have to run up through yo spot like CJ from San Andreas.<BR/><BR/>@ Monique: First, I think I'm gonna try to read all of these responses! Day-um!<BR/><BR/>But, seriously, I wasn't looking to change my actions necessarily. I think that what I was looking for people to tell me that I was either (1) justified for how I feel or (2) not justified for how I feel. <BR/><BR/>But, after getting lots (and lots, and lots) of insight, I think that it might be time for me to open the gates for a new population of friends or to be satisfied flying solo. It's likely that -- in some cases -- my past will STAY in the past. For me to expect anything else would be naive...<BR/><BR/>@ Greeny: I'm glad that the confusion was lifted. To the uninitiated eye, it's hard to tell what J is like. *wink* <BR/><BR/>Thanks for understanding!Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155830962502083092006-08-17T12:09:00.000-04:002006-08-17T12:09:00.000-04:00Andre~ My Gem Thank you , but your friend Agent ...Andre~ My Gem <BR/> Thank you , but your friend Agent J was kind enough to fill me in, I thought she was refering to me , 'Greeneyes' ,but she was refering to you as (nickname)Greeneyes !kinda funny now , and I always thought greeneyes were rare LOL apparently not on your blog . All is well in the world , thanks :A.(BOTH of you ) LOL<BR/>Greeneyes (the girl)Greeneyeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946141688595133954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155829979190913932006-08-17T11:52:00.000-04:002006-08-17T11:52:00.000-04:00No that you have all of these wonderful responses,...No that you have all of these wonderful responses, what are YOU going to do? Will there be any change in your actions, or is this something that we are going to read again?<BR/><BR/>that makes 54 wow!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155822376708925912006-08-17T09:46:00.000-04:002006-08-17T09:46:00.000-04:00You wrote this post a long time ago...it was the l...You wrote this post a long time ago...it was the longest post you ever wrote....in '94Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155819170825160292006-08-17T08:52:00.000-04:002006-08-17T08:52:00.000-04:00@ J: I'll find out about your source. And when I d...@ J: I'll find out about your source. And when I do...<BR/><BR/>@ ellena: Wow. What a great observation! It's funny to note that the picture I used came from some artist who called it "Alone, but together". He was trying to depict the same message that you're suggesting. I'm speechless...<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your insight.<BR/><BR/>@ Megan: Maybe you're right. Some people who do great things do them while looking down the barrel of last resort. Tyler Perry for instance (though I really don't like him) made his fortune from those damn Medea plays. But, he wrote his first play JUST to get him off the streets. From there, he became who he is. Maybe desperation to get out of one situation could springboard us into better lives. Thanks!<BR/><BR/>@ Greeny: It's OK, my green-eyed love. She was talking to me. "Green eyes" was one of the nicknames she gave me when we were younger. Besides, she's harmless. You could wipe the floor up with her (yeah, J, I said it!) Sorry for the mix-up, greeny.<BR/><BR/>@ JD: I guess that controversy <I>does</I> sell. Dag!Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155814588130873282006-08-17T07:36:00.000-04:002006-08-17T07:36:00.000-04:00Agent J! It's JD! Howya been!!!!I hope that you ...Agent J! It's JD! Howya been!!!!<BR/>I hope that you know who this is...... :)<BR/>P.S. Andre, 51 remarks! This is a landmark!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155789282799591802006-08-17T00:34:00.000-04:002006-08-17T00:34:00.000-04:00Andre` my GREENEYED MAN I AM A LITTLE PERPLEXED wi...Andre` my GREENEYED MAN <BR/><BR/><BR/>I AM A LITTLE PERPLEXED <BR/>without voice tones , facial expressions or lingering conversations it can be hard to pick up the meaningful content of ones words . was your friends comment which was darted at me , in a humorous tone , a warning , playful , , or sarcasm ??? Did I offend ????I know that many linger and read , waiting for something to strike them to comment , that is what it is all about , shall I take it in jest ??? <BR/>G.Greeneyeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946141688595133954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155780511962390002006-08-16T22:08:00.000-04:002006-08-16T22:08:00.000-04:00Andre, life is all about stepping out of what made...Andre, life is all about stepping out of what made you comfortable and walking toward things that are unknown. Maybe people "flaking" you is the best thing that has ever happened to you. Maybe it will give you the right push to expand your wings.<BR/><BR/>Don't see this as a lose or a bad thing. See it as YOUR gain and THEIR loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155780342294681422006-08-16T22:05:00.000-04:002006-08-16T22:05:00.000-04:00In sort of keeping up with the theme of some peopl...In sort of keeping up with the theme of some people's ideas: <BR/><BR/>I think your picture is an interesting statement to a point that was raised in this discussion. In the picture, you have two people who appear to be by themselves. But the only thing separating them is the wall. Maybe you feel alone now, but your connection to somebody could be as close as going over to the next room. <BR/><BR/>If the relationships in your life aren't any good for you (and it sounds like they're not), maybe you need to visit the other side of the wall.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155779950876734182006-08-16T21:59:00.000-04:002006-08-16T21:59:00.000-04:00That's for me to know and for you to hopelessly po...That's for me to know and for you to hopelessly ponder over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155779868187528992006-08-16T21:57:00.000-04:002006-08-16T21:57:00.000-04:00@ "Agent J": Uh...um...er...uh...Hey. *ahem* What'...@ "Agent J": Uh...um...er...uh...<BR/><BR/>Hey. *ahem* What's...uh...up?<BR/><BR/>Dude, of course I wasn't talking about you. But I <I>am</I> curious about how you found out about my blog. Has your boy been talking again?! I'll kill him, I will...Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155779517436202552006-08-16T21:51:00.000-04:002006-08-16T21:51:00.000-04:00A Lou,I bet you didn't know that, despite your bes...A Lou,<BR/><BR/>I bet you didn't know that, despite your best efforts to conceal it, I actually DO know about your blog. Never underestimate my resourcefulness. <BR/><BR/>I'm pretty impressed by your site. But, I think I'm a little ticked about this post, if you're talking about me. You know that I NEVER place "conditions" on our friendship. It helps that my husband has no problem with you, but all the same, I would never compromise one relationship for another. Of course, being a wife requires me to honor and respect my husband (as he does with me), but I would NEVER go as far as to disregard you, ignore you, neglect you, or abandon you if my husband doesn't like it. You know me better than that. If this post is about somebody else, then forget what I just said. :)<BR/><BR/>By the way, I'm no psychic, but I picked up on a couple of subtle plugs about me that you tossed into your posts. Punk!<BR/><BR/>Be careful what you write, green eyes. You never know who's reading.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155778891341043882006-08-16T21:41:00.000-04:002006-08-16T21:41:00.000-04:00@ Natasha: Hey Tash. What's been up? As I've said ...@ Natasha: Hey Tash. What's been up? <BR/><BR/>As I've said before, I'm fine. I'm not depressed. I'm not miserable. I'm not even <I>really</I> all that disappointed. As far I see it, my feelings are all apart of a growing process. I think I just posted this to vent; not to show the world how sad, lonely, and pathetic I am, nor to find resolution. <BR/><BR/>A part of my blog intro mentions that some of writing involves "reflections". This is one of them...<BR/><BR/>@ anonymous: That's actually a great question; one that I can't say that I have an answer for. All I know is that -- as things bother me (whatever they are) -- I make it a point to discuss it; even if it's only to get somebody else's feedback. Perhaps my problem is not necessarily that I'm bothered by stuff; but that I keep bringing it up. But, that's why people like you keep me in line! :)<BR/><BR/>@ J. Alex: No arguement here. The only problem I have is in trying to hold out for the "somebodies" who will bless me with their relationship. Cybernetic friends are cool; but it pretty much ends when we log off of our computers. It's weird when the flesh and bones folks figuratively log me out of their lives (unless it's convenient for them not too). But, everything is everything I guess.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comments.Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155778181132355132006-08-16T21:29:00.000-04:002006-08-16T21:29:00.000-04:00You've got quite the hot topic going on here. And ...You've got quite the hot topic going on here. And to think, you didn't have to mention Bush ONCE!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155778056463548782006-08-16T21:27:00.000-04:002006-08-16T21:27:00.000-04:00@ Cynthia: I see your point, Cyn. Having visited s...@ Cynthia: I see your point, Cyn. Having visited siblings and friends who are in different parts of the country, I know there's a whole world out there. God willing, I plan to do some moving around once I finish grad school; especially while I'm looking for doctoral programs. In the meantime, I'm still here. That's where the challenge lies...<BR/><BR/>@ Megan: When I read your response, I was absolutely floored. That was such a terrific way of using one of Jesus' parables to illustrate the importance of decision-making and what roads to take. Thanks!<BR/><BR/>@ Joanne: As if Megan's comments weren't enough, you added more insight that I could take for one day! <BR/><BR/>You're probably right. For every person who might discount or disregard me, there's bound to be someone else who values and appreciates me...even if I haven't met them yet. Thanks for the encouragement. It was much needed. <BR/><BR/>By the way, I hope that you're not starting to get nit picky about spelling too! Sheesh!Andrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01018331496569382238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155760624248945492006-08-16T16:37:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:37:00.000-04:00Just in case you might still be entertaining the t...Just in case you might still be entertaining the thought, Megan and Joanne did a terrific job of reaffirming the importance of not cutting off the whole world because of a few people. You never know who can be a blessing to you. But if you cut off EVERYONE, you'll lose SOMEONE!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155759660310655362006-08-16T16:21:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:21:00.000-04:00what i mean by that is that i remember you saying ...what i mean by that is that i remember you saying that you like going back to some of your older posts and see how your opinions and beliefs have changed or grew. but if the same problems that were once bothering you are still bothering you, do you truly think thats progress?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155759429360837882006-08-16T16:17:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:17:00.000-04:00this reminds me of another post you wrote before. ...this reminds me of another post you wrote before. do these have the same point? if so, what growth do you plan to make so that you don't keep revisiting the same topic over and over again?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155759247313369352006-08-16T16:14:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:14:00.000-04:00Except for the occasion humor in your comment sect...Except for the occasion humor in your comment section, the tone of your post tells me that your really dealing with difficult problems. I just want to let you know that I'm praying for you, like you have for me! <BR/><BR/>It's great to see you joking and laughing, but I hope your TRUE feelings reflect that. God bless you, my friend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19105683.post-1155758710668252172006-08-16T16:05:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:05:00.000-04:00Oops. I spelled "Prodigal" wrong. Sorry!Oops. I spelled "Prodigal" wrong. Sorry!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com